Bound by Lasso – The Yoke of Marriage
Married life is a tangled, beautiful mess of a man and a woman journeying together toward heaven.
The past month has been full of many amazing blessings working in different ministries. One of the most beautiful things that I continue to see is a deep desire for true love in everyone I meet. A desire for the love of God. We spend so much of our lives trying to reach for that love, but sadly, we sometimes run away from it when it is presented to us.
This world teaches us to live asking ourselves how we can get away with doing the least amount of work and use the least amount of effort. Our world is in a constant search for efficiency and productivity, but it seems to ironically promote a very lazy culture. All of the systems and technology of today work harder for us each day, so that we can do less and still somehow achieve more.
We want more, but we’re only willing to give as little as possible for it.
This mentality is one that I have been working hard to overcome. In order to sincerely improve on this, I have to honestly look at the darkest parts of my heart and fight a constant inner battle against my selfishness. To truly live our out love as a child of God, heaven should be more than an assumed destination. My life and works should show others God, especially to those I am closest to in my life.
As much as we desire it, our human hearts do not always find love so easy. Sometimes, in our hunger for love we grow impatient and tired. There are many times when loving God pushes us almost to the point of breaking. Then there are times when loving people can wear at our heart and exhaust our spirit.
This life encourages us to give ourselves the benefit of the doubt too often, and it’s easy to assume that we have been good and that we give enough of ourselves. It’s not easy to sincerely admit where we have failed. I know that there are many times when I start to believe my own excuses as to why I have not loved better.
Spousal love can produce some of the greatest joys, but can also be the source of many struggles. My parents celebrated their 48th wedding anniversary a few weeks ago, and it serves as a vivid reminder of what a vocation should be. While their marriage hasn’t always been perfect, the humanity of their devotion and love has been a beautiful example for our family. I pray that through His grace, I can be as strong as they have been.
Real love takes work, but looking at the cross, true love reminds me of the promise of heaven.
The facts and figures of abortion are very sad. It is a horrible crime against innocent children in the womb, but I believe we need to go beyond it to fight the problem. Truly being pro-life means much more than being anti-abortion.
It begins with our understanding of the dignity of each person and with the importance of love. People seem so surprised that children result from sex and relationships, as if something went wrong. It is more than just acts for pleasure, but an act that requires a complete giving of self and welcoming God.
The biggest challenge to being pro-life comes in our society’s perspective of contraception. A few weeks ago, people were celebrating the 50 years of the pill, as if it were man’s greatest cure, but fertility is not an illness. Many people that claim to be pro-life will use some form of artificial birth control. While many of the statistical numbers are skewed by perspective from pro-choice groups, this is still a sad reality. When people began to believe that there were no consequences to their actions, they acted as if there were none. When contraception fails, the couple’s openness to life is often still missing. This lack of openness to life will continue to lead to more demand for abortions.
Both men and women must understand our collective role in fertility. Each role is necessary and plays an important role physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Even in marriage, the current popular mentality denies the God given roles to each person. In a later post, I will write more about how natural family planning is not only effective, but serves a better role in helping reconcile these problems.
Protect the gift of our planet
We must do all that we can to protect and preserve the environment. This is an interesting point because there are often many environmental efforts that promote all types of birth control to prevent over population. What good is saving the world if we are only going to kill its people? Our irresponsibility and selfishness will have consequences for generations to come. There are many that even claim that environmental mentalities are driven by political motives. While there may be certain groups that hide political motives in the issues, we cannot deny the consequences of our glutenous American lifestyles. It is not living in good stewardship of our planet that God entrusted to us. Visit this site for more info.
If we are going to ask mothers with unwanted pregnancies to not have an abortion, we must find alternatives for them. One of the more common alternatives is adoption. Preventing abortions is not only about preventing death, it is about restoring dignity and respect for each individual life. We need to foster loving environments for these children and provide homes and communities that will show them God’s love and care. This is a tough subject because it forces Christians to consider living less luxurious or even comfortable lives. We have to determine how much we can extend ourselves and trust in God to provide what we need to take in these children. For some families, being a foster parent is better suited, but it is a large task in itself. Children need a family home to grow.
Love of Life
Let us pray that we live in a way that encourages an environment and society that loves and respect each individual soul.
Mother Mary, pray for us.